Do you know or do you suspect that your partner is involved with someone else? Are you the partner who is having either an emotional or sexual affair? If so, infidelity can be one of the most devastating times in a relationship. You probably don’t know what to do, which is completely understandable.

According to a 1998 survey by researchers at the University of Chicago, about 25 percent of married men and 17 percent of married women in the United States ADMIT to infidelity. The noted author Shirley Glass' research suggests it is probably closer to 25 percent of women and 40 to 50 percent of men. You can see that you are not alone.

It is really important that you know that marriages can survive an affair. In fact, some experts believe that a marriage can actually improve despite the involvement with another person. That is hard to believe, isn’t it? I know that it is possible to achieve a better marriage, but a lot has to happen so that improvement becomes a reality.

It is very hard to get through the process on your own. And besides, do you want to stay in this marriage anyway? There are many more questions than answers. You need and deserve help to get through these troubled times.

There are predictable stages that you will experience as you both ride on this emotional roller coaster. The sooner you get the help of a trained psychotherapist, the better. Given the skills needed to work this through effectively, it’s just about impossible to go it alone.

Email or call Roseanna Zoubek at 973 731-1551 to schedule an appointment ASAP. You will be so relieved when you do.


Both my wife and I had an affair.  Our marriage was in shambles and we were headed for a divorce. Roseanna Zoubek understood our struggles. She helped us sift thru the rubble and find a way to go thru the difficult process of making sense of what happened to us.  It took time and hard work but we're in a better marriage today.

A Renewed Couple


Relationships are all there is. Everything in the universe only exists because it is in relationship to everything else. Nothing exists in isolation.

Margaret Wheatley